• A heartbroken woman sitting in the house embracing her.
    Essays,  General Thoughts

    Just get over it

    It’s funny. I find myself saying “Get over it” to my kids sometimes when they’re whining about one thing or another—usually something insignificant in the grand scheme of life like someone eating the last brownie. If only the phrase worked for more significant things. Getting over it would benefit me in so many ways. One year ago today I was unemployed for the first time in my adult life. I was scared, depressed, and hurt over the whole situation. I tried to put on a brave face for my family, but I know they could see through it. About two weeks after that first day of unemployment, I accepted an…

  • General Thoughts

    Living with Ulcerative Colitis

    Today, May 19, is World IBD Day. For the first 20 years of my life, I lived blissfully unaware of the inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), ulcerative colitis (UC). Sure, I’d heard of stomach upset, suffered through childhood digestive woes and stomach viruses, but I didn’t know there was anything more than the ever-fleeting “nervous stomach” term I’d been assigned as a kid. Those first days of school tummy jitters, the clamminess before big tests or speaking in front of the class, the waves of nausea after making an ass of myself in front of my crush, etc. I took an acid-reducing medicine while in 11th grade and the occasional half-tablet…

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    Day 7: Countdown of my favorite love songs (message to new lover)

    Welcome to day seven of my ten-day series of Valentine’s Day inspired blog posts. Yesterday, I wrote about my favorite pour your heart out songs. Today’s songs are all messages to a new love, as in don’t give up on me, help me heal, let me help you heal, etc. These are songs for when you’re in love again after heartache, when someone’s in love with you after heartache, or when you love someone who’s had their heart broken. Half the heart is ready to love again, but the other half is still in a dark shadow, stuck in the past hurt. The first song perfectly describes how I felt…